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Let me tell you another true story.

Some friends of mine decided to try skydiving a short while ago for the first time.

I decided to go with them to observe and lend my support.

I used to skydive frequently.  I have survived a couple of interesting “emergency” situations with parachutes in the past.

So I have not taken that risk again since my two children were born.

The skydiving school my friends went to offers static line jumps.

Unlike tandem jumps where you are strapped to another jumper, with static line jumps you jump by yourself.

For a static line jump, your parachute is hooked up to the airplane by a strap.  

The jumpmaster opens the door of the airplane.  

You step out and hold on the wing strut.

When you are ready, you just let go.  

As you fall, the strap hooked to the airplane pulls your main parachute open and you steer it to a safe landing on the ground.

Before you can do a static line jump, you are required to go through about an 8 hour ground school class in which you learn basic parachuting techniques for leaving the plane, steering the chute, landing and what to do in emergencies, etc.

All jumpers have a main chute and an emergency chute.  The emergency chutes at this skydiving school all have a large silver handle.

If you have an emergency with your main parachute, such as the lines are tangled, the main parachute does not deploy properly, etc., you have to activate your emergency parachute immediately to land safely.

You do so by pulling the sliver handle.

When you pull the silver handle, the main parachute is jettisoned and your emergency shoot is activated and allows you to land safely.

In this critical situation, you have to depend solely on yourself and your own decision making.

What is drilled into the student’s head over and over during ground school is that in an emergency situation, all you have to do is pull the sliver handle.

They repeat over and over, in an emergency situation, ALL you have to do is pull the silver handle.

Your life depends on your own ability to complete one simple task.

That is it.  Nothing else to do.  Nothing else matters.  No one can help you.  You cannot procrastinate even for one second.

You have to pull your own silver handle.

Can you decide? Can you “pull the silver handle?”

Stephen Lesavich, PhD

If your life depended on pulling the silver handle, could you do it?

Or would you procrastinate?

You procrastinate because you feel something you need to actually accomplish is difficult, fearful, stressful, unpleasant, etc.

According to Dr. Tim Pychyl and other physiological researchers, procrastination NOT a time management issue.

Procrastination is instead a an emotional management issue.

Procrastination is actually a strategy you use to cope with negative emotions by projecting what interacting with a person, situation or event will actually feel like to you, to some instance in time in the future.

When you have a tough decision to make, a tough conversation to have, or you are in an actual emergency situation, will you the courage not procrastinate and to “pull the silver handle?”

Procrastination is often an indicator of one or more underlying, unresolved emotional issues, with a specific emotional trigger

Procrastination emotions are often the result of a prior traumatic event, embarrassing event, a personal limiting belief system, a family, society, religious belief system, etc. and include ingrained behavior patterns.

Procrastination emotions can be overcome by creating new behavior patterns.

Do you have a challenging task to complete, a tough decision to make, or a person to talk to that requires you pulling your own silver handle because of unwanted change that has entered your life?

Can you do it no matter how terrified you are?


Podcast: Can You Pull The Silver Handle?


I know that you can.  Decide. Even if your silver handle is imaginary. Then just grab it and pull.

“If you pull the silver handle, you will land safely somewhere…Always.”

Stephen Lesavich, PhD

If you pull your silver handle in a challenging situation in your life, you will make a positive impact in your own life.

I am always pulling the silver handle to overcome the challenging situations in my life. How about you?

Out There on the Edge of Everything®…

Stephen Lesavich, PhD

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Certified solution-focused life and experienced business coach.

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